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Hi there, I’m Nichoel!

I help you get unstuck and create your extraordinary life.

About me …

In the beginning...

I was born and raised in Minneapolis, Minnesota. I love to say I’m “Minnesota Nice” because I am … but I’m not. I guess you’ll have to get to know me to understand that 🙂

  • After high school, I went to Carlson School of Management, the business school at the University of Minnesota.
  • Received my bachelors in MIS (Management Information Systems).
  • Took an internship as a project coordinator/analyst with American Express my senior year.
  • They (American Express) liked my work and offered me a great position upon graduation.

It appeared I was living the dream.

I was finishing my degree. I had a job with good pay and benefits all lined up. I was on track to buy my first house in a couple of years. I could finally spend weekends with my friends without worrying about studying or preparing for the next exam.

I should have been happy.
I should have been ecstatic … right?
What was wrong with me?

Deep down I felt like there was something I was missing, but I didn’t know what. As I sat in my cubicle at American Express (which, mind you, was a good job with a great work environment and even better team of people to work with) I felt like I was stuck in a life I wasn’t sure I wanted. I felt like I was only half alive.

And a life half-lived is no life at at all.

I wanted something different.
I wanted something extraordinary.

So I did what anyone in my position would do. I turned down the offer from American Express. I packed up my little white Chevy Cavalier, and at 21 years of age, I drove across country to California in search of a new life.

Playing poker...

 Following my dream of living a life less ordinary lead me to poker.

I started playing poker professionally in 2004. I immersed myself completely in it. Not only did I play, I started hosting a game at a local casino, I started commentating on live cash games for a production company, I even became partner of the company for a time. I surrounded myself with that which I loved.

The game itself has had a profound impact on not only my life, but in who I have become. From my mindset to my strategical analysis skills, to my intuition and ability to problem solve on the fly, poker has shaped the entire person I am today.

Transitioning to coach...

I began feeling stuck again a few years ago. I still loved playing poker for a living, but not like I used to. I began to feel like something was missing. Like I was meant to move on and do something else. But what?

After reading Becoming Supernatural: How Common People Are Doing the Uncommon I began to take a good long look at my life. I decided to get serious about my future, my mindset and my desires, and began to empower myself to build the life that I wanted again.

I believe transitions are tough, but they’re also transformational.

The transition from playing poker for 16+ years to a life and career coach was a reinvention (of me). It almost felt as if I was attempting to become a whole new person. I went through multiple periods of feeling overwhelmed, stressed out, stuck, and unfocused before becoming clear on what it truly was I wanted and how I was going to get it.

It was tough and it was exhausting, but going through that transition allowed me to understand the tools I need to help others like me. Others who are facing major challenges in their life and/or are transitioning to something different/something greater.

Coaching style + framework...

Coaching Style

While I’m officially The Aggressive Lifecoach, my style is actually quite supportive and understanding. However I will challenge you to face your fears, stay the course, and do the work required to live your purpose/make your desired life changes.

Coaching Framework: The 4C’s

I don’t believe in a one-size-fits-all approach to coaching. However a general framework is helpful as a guide to one way in which we can work together.

1. Connect

I’ll ask you to get back to the basics and reconnect with yourself. This is also about connecting to possibility and what could be or what you’ve always dreamed of but were too afraid to say out loud.

  • What lights you up? 
  • What are you working to create?
  • How do you want your life to change?

2. Clarify

After connecting to the possibility of what could be, we’ll work on gaining clarity of what it is you really want. Defining clearly and concisely what you actually want in life is the most important and often the most overlooked step. Because if you don’t truly know what you want … how are you going to get it?

What do you want?

Is it to …

  • Quit the job.
  • Start/end the relationship.
  • Move to that place.
  • Do that thing you’ve always wanted to do.

What do you want?

3. Challenge

I’ll challenge you to locate and remove the obstacles + take down the barriers + replace your limiting beliefs to take ownership of the life you want.

4. Create

We’ll create your best life plan to get you from where you are to where you want to be, and I’ll hold you accountable along the way.

Home life...

Children

I have two children … Mia (age 9) and Dax (age 7). They love each other and me more than life itself. And I am an exceedingly wise and profound mother.

Ok, fine. We are an incredibly normal household. We love, we laugh, we fight, we make up, we do life together and many days it’s incredible and beautiful, and also many other days it’s immensely hard and exhausting. It is life, after all.

Puppies

Because I never was the one for the path of least resistance, we added two puppies to the household during our recent quarantine (Sushi + Cheeto). Their addition has made our lives the most cutest little sh*tshow you’ve ever seen.

Purpose...

My Why

My mission is to discover/understand the fundamental essence of what it means to be a human being. What makes us tick? What drives us? How, in fact, do we create extraordinary lives? 

My How

My purpose is to accomplish my mission through daily coaching and discussions with others like me where we develop and explore ideas of personal development, growth, systems, habits, tools, etc. that contribute to creating extraordinary lives.

 

Going through your own transition? Looking for your own life less ordinary?

**Psssst ... wanna know a secret? Click the + sign!

The picture above is actually me sitting in the same spot where I host Connection Calls. When you open up Zoom, I’ll more than likely be sitting in front of that window, and that faux fireplace, and quite possibly will be wearing a headset (since my children are in the other room and they care very little for the idea of “inside voices”). Hopefully that takes away a little bit of pre-call jitters and gives you an idea of what connecting with me looks like. 😉